196: Finding the Right Support For You
Let’s talk about finding the right place to get help for YOU. Whether it’s a Coach, a Therapist, or a Program - there are a lot of things to explore in getting the answers or healing that wound that you’ve been keeping to yourself. Trying to find the right person or program - can be overwhelming and you get caught up and miss getting help. Work instead of taking one chance or one shot at getting help. How sometimes it’s not just one place, one thing, or one person that helps, it’s a series of people who helped you out with something.
Sharing some ideas and guide questions for you to reflect on:
Think about what style of therapy or coaching you want - there are so many styles of approach out there
Is there someone in front of you that you started talking to?
What is your goal with what you are going through?
Are you willing to invest time, energy, and money to do the work?
When you are looking for someone or a program or whatever you’re looking to, have they gotten results for others or been able to help others in a way with the thing that you are working through?
This program/coach, have they experienced what you’ve experienced? Are they living their lives the way you want to live yours after walking through this grief?
Are you ready to stop cycling in the pain and anguish of grief? What if you could get a moment of calm and respite? After your child dies, everything feels hopeless and dark, and it’s hard to even think straight. Staying in survival mode keeps the cycle going.
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The more you allow yourself to sit in discomfort, the more you become okay with being uncomfortable. Actually, the more comfortable you become. The more you lean into uncomfortable feelings, sensations, and emotions, the more comfortable you become.
I think right now, I just have so much gratitude because when you're in a struggle, you have no idea why it's happening. And to be able to be like, Wow, I turned this into something that I'm so proud of because I see how it's helping other women. That just shows that, like, that is a plan that I would have never seen back then.
If you have kids, give them jobs and have them help! It helps when I have so many helpers now whom I can delegate the jobs to, and it helps get things done.
Dana highlights the importance of being patient with oneself, acknowledging the need to allow space for sadness or frustration. She welcomes questions about her daughter and encourages open dialogue, recognizing that understanding often comes through curiosity and conversation. Dana's openness and willingness to share her experiences reflect her commitment to fostering empathy and awareness.
I am on this medication (before). It helps manage it a little bit, but I'm still anxious. I'm still depressed. I'm still so glad the medication helps, but it's not the answer because it doesn't take away the issue.
Do it because you're angry or sad or don't feel like it. It is the hardest part of everyone's journey, whether that's regarding singing or eating vegetables. Whatever it might be, finding that inner drive and any motivation to do what you know is good for you. If you find that, that will give you all the power, because that’s when the ball starts rolling.
The first one is shifting your perspective, the second is rewiring your mind or the response to it, and the third is cultivating lasting relief. And in that first step, it's really one believing that change is possible.
Change is inevitable in our lives. It happens like the sun rises and sets. And yet, for some reason, we are shocked when there is change or things are different than we thought they could be.
It's like, go take a little break. Step back from it. Get fresh eyes and then come back again. Take a break in so many ways, not only for our kids. This is a beautiful gift to learn how to take breaks step back to refresh and then try again.
Things I've let go of and things I've shifted or changed. Hopefully, just one of them will be useful for you in your life, permitting you to just do your life. How you want to and what works for you and your family.