343: How to Be Okay with Not Knowing With Ruth (RERUN)
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In this deeply emotional and introspective rerun podcast episode, the conversation explores the powerful intersection of grief, confusion, and the longing for clarity after a painful loss. The speaker opens up about the inner turmoil of not having answers and how this lack of closure creates ongoing emotional suffering. While she acknowledges she hasn’t fully let go of the situation, she also recognizes that dwelling in the unknown brings more pain than healing. The guidance offered encourages her to first fully feel the frustration, confusion, and deeper pain, before trying to move toward acceptance.
A key moment in the episode is a gentle, guided meditation that leads the speaker to physically and emotionally ground herself in the present. Through visualization—walls of protection, flowing water, and emotional energy—she is invited to observe and regulate the sensations in her body without judgment. As she names the emotions and notices their effects, she slowly shifts from being overwhelmed to feeling a calm sense of peace. The imagery and mindful breathing become tools to help her realize that, while she cannot control the situation, she does have control over how she responds to it emotionally.
Toward the end, the episode touches on the common yet often unspoken desire for justice in the wake of loss. The speaker reflects on how holding onto the need for answers and fairness only intensifies her suffering. She expresses gratitude for being reminded that these feelings are normal, especially for mothers. The episode beautifully illustrates the dual nature of grief—allowing emotions to be felt fully while also learning to reframe the pain. Ultimately, the conversation offers a compassionate reminder that healing begins when we stop resisting what is and instead choose how we want to carry the pain forward.
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