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198: Letting Others Be Wrong About You

198: Letting Others Be Wrong About You

If you are new to listening to Grieving Moms Podcast, whether you just came across my podcast and you’ve been on this grief journey for a while, or if you found me because you just experienced the death of your child, I want to say a gentle welcome here. I’m sorry that you are here, but I’m t you are here, but I’m so glad you’ve found this space. This is where I share tools, resources, hope, encouragement, stories, and lessons of grief and death. I hope you can find what you are looking for here. 

I do have a free video called the Best Way to Ease the Pain of Grief, if you are a grieving mother, go right now to www.meganhillukka.com and get access to this free video. It will give you some direction and guidance on how in the world you are supposed to continue to live in this horrific pain.

In today’s episode, I will share a few ways I’ve found that have helped me let people be wrong about me, let people judge me wrong, and let people misunderstand me. And I’m also telling you, it’s not easy. It’s given me a lot of anxiety over the years, but I’m learning to let go.

So reframing my perspective and my focus has helped me mostly let go of that anxiety

-Tapping. I will always bring up tapping. It’s an incredibly powerful tool, and if you haven’t joined Grieving Moms Haven yet and tried out the tappings for child loss, I’m not sharing about it enough, because it is literally life-changing. 

-Hearing from others that they also struggle with this, and also that you truly cannot please everyone.

-In a similar way of staying grounded in what’s true for me, journaling and noticing how I feel and being present in that. 

And finally, just having this deep understanding and belief that you cannot control what other people think and feel. Anytime you try to control what someone else is feeling or thinking, you will feel anxious, angry, or not yourself because you are trying to do something that is impossible. It’s literally not in your control.

Are you ready to stop cycling in the pain and anguish of grief? What if you could get a moment of calm and respite? After your child dies, everything feels hopeless and dark, and it’s hard to even think straight. Staying in survival mode keeps the cycle going.

Register to watch this free video on how to stop the pain, and feel better again.


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