In today’s episode, I wanted to go through these top 5 regrets of dying, and share how they have shaped my life after Aria and some insights or thoughts about them.

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I'd stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish I'd let myself be happier.

I hope that these 5 regrets of the dying help you to ponder for yourself in your life. Even though you might not feel like your life is a gift, it is, and you are here. 

Starting with what worked for me:

• Being able to travel with my family most of the year and how were we able to do that

• Having the Grieving Moms Haven and the purpose it shares to the community

• My relationship with my husband and how we supported each other

• The ways we celebrated and remembered Aria on her birthday and death date

• The power of feeling and allowing yourself to fully move through an emotion on a deeper level

What was hard the past year:

• Trying to juggle everything that we are doing all at the same time 

• Not having a coach similar to what I’m doing

• The past fall of having my first trimester of being pregnant

To be continued on our conversation from the previous episode with Hails. 

We have this crazy expectation of human beings - especially women - that we need to be amazing in all aspects. On how we describe ourselves to be the glass half-empty or the glass half-full.

In building the Hey Loss Mama community, Hailey’s goal is to help moms to feel their emotions. After Hayden died, there’s a realization of needing to have a friend - someone who knows her struggle and who doesn't need to explain herself. She created the community with the intent to gather 100 moms and like connect to 5 people personally. Hails have been humbled and honored to grow as a community - feeling that connection to over a thousand moms.

Join me and Hails as we talk about her journey towards grief and how she evolved from being an “I don’t want a child” woman to deciding with his husband to conceive over Covid to experiencing a stillbirth for her first pregnancy.

The trauma that you have to experience in delivering your baby knowing that you can never have her, nothing can prepare you for that silence.  

In today’s episode, I want to talk about self-care. A little about self-care and why it’s important to take care of yourself, but that self-care is not just what feels good at first. Self-care for us is like eating chocolate, going to get a massage, having time alone, and time to do whatever you want, which is always amazing and feels good, but is it truly taking care of yourself? Tune in as I talked about how to truly take care of yourself.

I’m not one for big announcements and it feels kind of weird for me to share this way, but we are expecting our 8th child! It’s weird having to share this special moment and having the opposite thoughts about it - thus the episode title. 

I have not talked about it a ton, but I had a miscarriage after my first boy. It hasn’t affected me a lot in my life however I didn’t realize that this is how it was for me - having to experience a new pregnancy - and how it is different for me than it is for others.

We talked about Jen Burgard's story and how she came to know about grief. Jen opened up and shared her first grief experience in her younger years. The grief she had experienced in the year 2017 when she was pregnant with her second child. Tune in, as she shares her experience on the day her water broke and was suddenly rushed to have an emergency C-section and the aftermath of that event.

Depression can be scary for those who are wanting to help you, and they might worry if you don’t get help soon, or don’t do anything that you will just stay there forever. And it’s definitely possible that you will stay there if you don’t allow yourself to move through the depression and to be in it when it’s there, but then to take steps to get out of it if it doesn’t lift for you when you allow yourself to be there.

The key to this is fully allowing yourself to be there without judgment. Allowing yourself to feel apathy. Feeling the disinterest, that you just don’t care anymore. And be there, knowing that this doesn’t last forever and that this is a part of grief.