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186: Self-Care is Not What Feels Good

186: Self-Care is Not What Feels Good

Welcome to another episode of the Grieving Moms Podcast. In today’s episode, I want to talk about self-care. A little about self-care and why it’s important to take care of yourself, but that self-care is not just what feels good at first. Self-care for us is like eating chocolate, going to get a massage, having time alone, and time to do whatever you want, which is always amazing and feels good, but is it truly taking care of yourself? Tune in as I talked about how to truly take care of yourself. 

Here are some things I talked about:

  • How taking care of yourself first is one of the most important ways you can take care of your children.

  • How to take care of yourself in a way that actually fills you up and feels like soul care.

  • Soul care. And how this resonated with me in a way, that it’s not just taking care of your physical body, going to the gym but it’s like giving a massage and a breath of fresh air to your insides, and the feelings you have inside of you.

  • How to begin to learn how to take care of yourself by feeling your feelings and Learning how much better you feel afterward and feel free and lighter than when you just try to ignore them. 

  • How to be in the present moment and how you can surpass the painful, challenging, exhausting process, but it’s the work that your future self will be so grateful that you put the time, energy, and effort into. 

What happens, then, if you imagine your future self as someone who puts in the hard work now, takes care of their physical body, uses tools to support herself in processing and feeling all of the emotions of grief, and opens up to vulnerable and difficult conversations? In the not-too-distant future, you will most likely have incorporated grief into your life, hoped-for well-being, joy, and knowledge of how to hold and carry your grief.

Are you ready to stop cycling in the pain and anguish of grief? What if you could get a moment of calm and respite? After your child dies, everything feels hopeless and dark, and it’s hard to even think straight. Staying in survival mode keeps the cycle going.

Register to watch this free video on how to stop the pain, and feel better again.


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