71 : Ways to Remember Your Child This Season

In this episode, I am going to share with you some tips on how your child will be noticed or remembered in this holiday season.

If you want your child remembered, plan something or do something that will remember them, and don’t expect or wait for others to do that. So if you want something, in particular, plan it, get it, create it, spread the word, whatever you need to do.

Here are some ideas that we do in particular to remember Aria:

• A picture frame with a lot of pictures of her.

• We light a candle at the gathering that we are at.

• In our home, we have a statue of a little girl, wind chimes, bird feeder. On Christmas, we have a few more things like ornaments.

• Our tradition is that Santa brings something in Aria’s stocking.In her stocking comes a game or puzzle, or last year was a year pass to the science museum.

• We go sing at the cemetery on Christmas Eve. 

• We have gone to Angel of Hope ceremonies, and different events put on by the hospitals.

• For All Saint’s Day, it was a very special moment when Justin had the kids blow out candles we had lit, and before they could blow out the candle, they would say something they remembered about Aria or something they wished they could do with her. 

Keeping your child’s memory alive and talking about them is something I know you want so badly. You never want them to be forgotten. So keep their memory alive. Do things that feel like you can connect to them.

Other things that you can do :

• Bake something they liked

• Write letters to them

• Lit a candle for them

• Ask other people what a memory they have is of them

• Watch some videos if you have some

• Donate to a cause in their name

• If you find something that you could buy for your child and wish you could, buy it and gift it to someone else

• Play their favorite music or music that reminds you of them

• Create a memory book of them

• Create a memory video

• Send out cards

• Do a fundraiser like a 5k run or walk in their memory

If you want to apply for a spot for 1:1 Grief Coaching, go to www.meganhillukka.com/griefcoaching

Join my free class on How to Get Through Grief. This is for you if you are feeling stuck, lost, and unsure how to move forward. You can go to this link to register: https://hello71e5ca.clickfunnels.com/webinar-registrationsnm6y6nq

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community

70: Grief as a Child

We have a special guest for this episode, Randi Pearlman Wolfson, who’s going to show us how grief looks into a child’s eyes

She first experienced grief when she lost her dad at the age of 10.There wasn’t any kind of grief support way back then so she failed to process her grief up until she received grief support in her early adulthood.

Episode pointers:

• Teachers should be educated how to handle kids in grief, and teach their classmates how to support their grieving friend.

• Families should have open conversations about a dying family member.

• If there was counseling during that time, she would have expressed her grief in a healthier way.

• It’s never too late to address your grief.

• It’s not grief that sucks, it’s the death that sucks. Grief is what we have to embrace and that’s what can hopefully allow us to move through our life is by embracing the grief. Embracing the feelings that are bubbling within us and to not  be afraid of that.

• Reach out in somewhere or some way so that you will not feel alone.

• Grief is lifelong.

Tips for moms:

• Help yourself  and make sure that you have a place, an outlet, and support because the better that we are supported, the more we have to give to our child.

• Have conversations with your child about their departed loved one

• It is important not be afraid to show your emotions in front of your child

You can get in touch with Randi through :

Fb (Grief and Grits) https://www.facebook.com/griefandgrits

IG : (Grief and Grits) https://www.instagram.com/griefandgrits/

Website : https://www.griefandgrits.com/

Her Book : Eddie’s Brave Journey

If you want to apply for a spot for 1:1 Grief Coaching, go to www.meganhillukka.com/griefcoaching

Join my free class on How to Get Through Grief. This is for you if you are feeling stuck, lost, and unsure how to move forward. You can go to this link to register: https://hello71e5ca.clickfunnels.com/webinar-registrationsnm6y6nq

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group:www.meganhillukka.com/community

69 : Anxiety and Fear Leading Up to the Holidays

For this episode, we are going to focus on the internal work in ways moving through the holidays.

Feeling anxious or dreading the holidays is just normal for a grieving mom. The first thing that you usually say is that your baby/child won’t be here.

You won’t know how big the wave of grief may be on that day , but you know that you are scared and don’t want to feel that dreadful pain.

What if you could just let the wave come, and be okay with  however big it is?

When you are open to the waves, you don’t have to dread them.

Think of this - you have lived through every wave  of grief that has come so far. You have survived every wave.

If you want to apply for a spot for 1:1 Grief Coaching, go to www.meganhillukka.com/griefcoaching

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community

68: 3 Ideas to Support You Through the Holidays

Holiday season is a time for happiness and making good memories with your loved ones.

How can a grieving mom experience true happiness if she is still having intense pain and longing for her child?

In these special holiday episodes, I am going to help you in going through this holiday season.

Here are my practical tips for you:

1. Have a plan A, plan B, and plan C.

• Because you truly don’t know when a grief wave will hit, and it’s helpful to have something else you can do if you are just not feeling it that day.

2.  Let go of judgment of how your grief is supposed to be and ride the waves as they come.

• Let yourself grieve, and if you do have moments of joy, allow those to come without judgment.

3. Allow yourself to say NO.

• Use no freely. When you are in deep grief, your tank is beyond empty and you have nothing left to give to others.

If you want to apply for a spot for 1:1 Grief Coaching, go to www.meganhillukka.com/griefcoaching

Join my free class on How to Get Through Grief. This is for you if you are feeling stuck, lost, and unsure how to move forward. You can go to this link to register: https://hello71e5ca.clickfunnels.com/webinar-registrationsnm6y6nq

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community

67 : God, Grief and the Work I do

In this episode, I want to share to you how God has given me strength in facing the most difficult and painful aspect in my life, the death of my baby, Aria.

I believe that she’s in Heaven and in a better place. Even if I wanted her back with me, she would not want to come back.

When you are given a trial, God also gives you the strength to be able to get through it.

Even if my faith is so important to me, I have here some reasons why I don’t often talk about it in my coaching :

●     I don’t really like hearing from others about God.  I want to hear from my faith about God and not anywhere else.

●     I believe that no matter what you believe, I can help you through grief with different tools.

●     I don’t believe it’s my job as a grief coach to push my faith or any faith in anyone.

There are things that can help you on your grief journey, no matter what you believe, and I am here to do those things. Give you those tools to support your mind and your body through a very intense and difficult season of your life.

If you want to apply for a spot for 1:1 Grief Coaching, go to www.meganhillukka.com/griefcoaching

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community

66 : The Words You Say and Speak

In this episode, we are going to know how powerful words are especially in grief. 

We can connect the words in our thoughts, and use them to communicate how we are feeling.That’s the reason why we need to be careful on what we think, and what we say to ourselves and to other people.

Here are some points for this episode :

• We label emotions as GOOD or BAD. We embrace GOOD emotions and we avoid BAD emotions.

• The more you repeat the words and thoughts again and again, the more you believe them. No matter how true or untrue they are.

• Choose the right words. They make a huge difference not only how you connect with others, but how you feel about yourself.

If you want to apply for a spot for 1:1 Grief Coaching, go to www.meganhillukka.com/griefcoaching

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community

65 : ALL GOOD or ALL BAD

How can you tell someone if he or she is good or bad?

Is it through his or her actions? 

In this episode, we are going to realize that we are not ALL GOOD nor ALL BAD. We are a combination of both. Every one of us has our own battles.

You can’t judge someone just because of his or her actions. You don’t know his or her story and struggles.

Grieving is extremely painful. We may become full of bitterness and hatred but it doesn’t give us the right to label and hurt other people.

No one is perfect and no one will ever be. What we need is compassion and understanding for each other. Let’s help each other in making ourselves better.It's so helpful to be aware of how you might be judging others and how it affects your emotions and your well being. When I first began doing this, it has changed so much for me.

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community

64: Baby Loss and Holding on to Hope with Ashley

In this episode, we are going to listen to Ashley’s story of grieving, moving on, and inspiring others.

Ashley had lost a  child not only once, but twice- her two lovely daughters. 

Let’s know how she was able to stand up and continue healing after these tragic events. 

She also shared that it is possible to feel both sorrow and joy at the same time. 

Let’s listen to how it’s possible to feel both.

Here are some points for this episode :

-We don’t notice how quickly death comes into our family. 

-You feel it and you push forward, It will get better.

- It’s not betraying them if you start finding joy. Remember, you can carry grief and joy.

- It doesn't mean that the pain is not there, but you can choose to look for joy If you want to.

- Remember that you are not alone. The more you talk about it, the less you feel alone.

You can connect with Ashley though the following :

• Instagram: The Blue Tansy Bunch 

• Facebook: Ashley Aho

• Her Recommended Book: Healing Oils of the Bible by David Stewart

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community

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