How do we get through grief? It can feel so impossible. I wanted to share ideas that came to me of how we can learn to walk with grief and “get through” one of the most difficult experiences in our lives.
Listen in to hear the 17 ways I offer on how to get through grief.
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I’m so excited to have one of my coaching clients , Pony here on the podcast. Pony has been a joy to work with. She’s so open and coachable, and willing to try anything I offer to her. Working through deep and painful things with grief is hard work, and I am so honored to be able to hold the space for Pony and help her process and work through so many of the things that have come up for her with the death of her daughter Jess. I’m so excited to introduce you to her and have you see a glimpse of the hope that she continually looks for even in the deepest grief.
-Pony’s story and how she came to know grief
-How her grief has changed in the 6 months that she’s been walking with it
-What Pony has learned about herself and grief
-How coaching has helped her
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As a grieving person, it’s exhausting to be alive. It’s exhausting every single day. And then there are people around us who don’t understand or who don’t say the right things or don’t act the right way and that adds another layer of pain. It’s easy to think that everyone around you is stupid and should be doing better. That everyone around you should do better and know exactly what to do. It’s easy to get angry, hurt, mad, and begin to separate yourself from those who you thought would be good support for you because they said something that hurt you deeply. Even though you are grieving and you are the one in pain, it’s still up to you to build your support system around you.
-Building your support system is up to you
-Allow others to help in the way that they can
-4 different types of support people
-Notice who is helping instead of who is not
-Ideas of how to find support if you don’t have any in your life
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It’s here again! Relief in Grief Retreat! This is a chance for you to connect with other grieving moms who are looking for support and tools to navigate the difficult journey of grief. If you are feeling hopeless and like things are never going to get better I want to encourage you to give this a try. It’s free and I promise there is nothing like this out there. I will do coaching, meditations, thought work, and also teaching about grief. You will get to be a part of this amazing experience with other moms who have also lost a child. I truly believe if you show up and do the meditations with me, and learn the tools I’m teaching you will start to feel a shift and change in your grief. This is for you if you are looking for hope, but don’t know where to turn. This is for you if you are feeling stuck and are starting to feel like this is just the way it’s going to be the rest of your life. Friend- there is so much more for you. Please come join me in Relief in Grief! To learn more about this go to www.reliefingriefsupportgroup.com
This starts on July 28th, it’s so much more than a support group. You truly don’t want to miss this. Save your spot for free at www.reliefingriefsupportgroup.com
If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community
Pregnancy after loss can be a terrifying experience. The worries and fears that come up after you know the possibility of losing another child is a real thing are very real. So I wanted to talk with Amy about this experience, and how we can support ourselves through this experience. Having a baby after loss is a beautiful thing, but it can also be hard.
-Who is Amy and how did you come to know grief?
-How can this kind of pregnancy change after adding and utilizing tools to support?
-Allowing the experiences and emotions such as anxiety to be there without judging them
Instagram: Amy Smooth Stones Coaching
Facebook : Smooth Stones Coaching
Her Recommended Book: Pregnancy Brain by Parijat Deshpande
If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community
Some links may contain affiliate links in which I receive a small commission if you decide to purchase something, this helps support the grief work I'm doing.
The way we tell our story is a powerful thing. We can tell our story with shame, resentment, guilt, and where we keep beating ourselves up. Or we can tell our story with love, compassion, and kindness for ourselves. In this episode, I’m telling my story of Aria’s death from 3 different perspectives- Judgement, facts, compassion for myself.
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Right now, you cannot buy anything from me. I have nothing to sell you at this moment. So I wanted to talk about investing in yourself and why I believe you need to be investing in your mental health.
Truly, your mental well-being is a gift. But it’s also something that if you want to, you can invest in yourself the time, money, and energy to supporting and caring for so that you have the energy to take care of your family. There is nothing wrong with you. God made you exactly how you are supposed to be, and I believe he has also given us these tools to support ourselves and process our emotions.
-Free vs. Paid ways of supporting yourself in your grief
-How mental well-being affects every part of your life
-Why everything shouldn’t be free
-How mental health is a gift, but also something that we can support and work towards
If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community
Looking inside ourselves and beginning to feel our emotions is one of the most difficult things we can do.
We are driven by our emotions. Everything we do is because we feel a certain emotion. As a society we have been taught that emotions are fluffy, emotions are bad, emotions are a sign of weakness. But I believe that emotions are a gift that we have been given to process and release the energy of our experiences from our bodies.
Our emotions also help us act, not act, respond, and do things in the world. Truly, our emotions are a blessing.
-How I started becoming aware of my emotions
-Ways to think of emotions that make them easier to process
-Letting go of judgment
-Exercise to feel the emotion on demand
If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community
I’ve been meaning to do an episode on generational trauma for a while, and I wanted to do it now, with all the discussion around racism and systemic racism. I believe the more we can listen and understand, the more compassion we can have for each other. This is just a small piece of what I’m learning and understand. I’m focusing this mainly on grief, but this understanding of generational trauma helps to show how we are affected by the events that happened in our past.
-What is generational trauma?
-Description of an IG photo by Ayan Mukherjee (Here’s the link to check it out https://www.instagram.com/p/Bwmp1nRA7Ow/)
-How I began to learn the mother affects her children
-My story with my children
-Is it still selfish to care for yourself?
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