57: Needing to Know

Have you ever felt like you don’t know enough about exactly what happened with your child’s death? Maybe it feels like you cannot find any peace because there are too many unknowns for you? 

Today, I wanted to dive into how I needed to know everything, and how I began to process that when I was not able to know everything. This little shift in perspective was powerful for me. I hope it can be helpful for you!

If you want to schedule a 20-minute call with Megan go to wwww.calendly.com/cultivatedfamily/20

In this call- you can bring one struggle on your grief journey, that you and Megan can work through together either with thought work or guided meditations.

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group:www.meganhillukka.com/community

56: Fear

Fear is driving our world right now, fear seems to be something that stops us from taking action and doing the things we want in our life.

Fear definition from online: an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat.

When you lose a child, the fear, the terror, the horror, the awful horrific emotions, and pain are not something that is easily described. There is real and true fear there. Fear serves a purpose in our lives. It’s there to get us to move when we need to. When the fear is real because the fears you feared actually came true, how are you supposed to work through fear? How are you supposed to move forward?

This is a very deep question, one I can’t fully answer in this episode, and one I don’t have all the answers for. There is so much fear and terror and I’m so sad for that. I’m so sad for every single person who is driven by fear to stay in a place they don’t like to be.

I want to share some tools I’ve used to navigate fear I’ve felt in my life.

If you want to get on the waiting list for my next round of Life After Child Loss Coaching- go to www.lifeafterchildlosscoaching.com

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group:www.meganhillukka.com/community

55: How To Get Through Grief

How do we get through grief? It can feel so impossible. I wanted to share ideas that came to me of how we can learn to walk with grief and “get through” one of the most difficult experiences in our lives.

Listen in to hear the 17 ways I offer on how to get through grief.

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community

54: Searching For Hope in Deep Grief With Pony Walker

I’m so excited to have one of my coaching clients , Pony here on the podcast. Pony has been a joy to work with. She’s so open and coachable, and willing to try anything I offer to her. Working through deep and painful things with grief is hard work, and I am so honored to be able to hold the space for Pony and help her process and work through so many of the things that have come up for her with the death of her daughter Jess. I’m so excited to introduce you to her and have you see a glimpse of the hope that she continually looks for even in the deepest grief.

-Pony’s story and how she came to know grief

-How her grief has changed in the 6 months that she’s been walking with it

-What Pony has learned about herself and grief

-How coaching has helped her

Her Recommended Books:

1. Child Loss: The Heartbreak and the Hope by Clara Hinton

2. You Are the Mother of All Mothers

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community

Some links may contain affiliate links in which I receive a small commission if you decide to purchase something, this helps support the grief work I'm doing.

53: Building Your Support System

As a grieving person, it’s exhausting to be alive. It’s exhausting every single day. And then there are people around us who don’t understand or who don’t say the right things or don’t act the right way and that adds another layer of pain. It’s easy to think that everyone around you is stupid and should be doing better. That everyone around you should do better and know exactly what to do. It’s easy to get angry, hurt, mad, and begin to separate yourself from those who you thought would be good support for you because they said something that hurt you deeply. Even though you are grieving and you are the one in pain, it’s still up to you to build your support system around you.

-Building your support system is up to you

-Allow others to help in the way that they can

-4 different types of support people

-Notice who is helping instead of who is not

-Ideas of how to find support if you don’t have any in your life

Links to any resources:

It’s here again! Relief in Grief Retreat! This is a chance for you to connect with other grieving moms who are looking for support and tools to navigate the difficult journey of grief. If you are feeling hopeless and like things are never going to get better I want to encourage you to give this a try. It’s free and I promise there is nothing like this out there. I will do coaching, meditations, thought work, and also teaching about grief. You will get to be a part of this amazing experience with other moms who have also lost a child. I truly believe if you show up and do the meditations with me, and learn the tools I’m teaching you will start to feel a shift and change in your grief. This is for you if you are looking for hope, but don’t know where to turn. This is for you if you are feeling stuck and are starting to feel like this is just the way it’s going to be the rest of your life. Friend- there is so much more for you. Please come join me in Relief in Grief! To learn more about this go to www.reliefingriefsupportgroup.com 

This starts on July 28th, it’s so much more than a support group. You truly don’t want to miss this. Save your spot for free at www.reliefingriefsupportgroup.com 

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community

52: Pregnancy After Loss with Amy Watson

Pregnancy after loss can be a terrifying experience. The worries and fears that come up after you know the possibility of losing another child is a real thing are very real. So I wanted to talk with Amy about this experience, and how we can support ourselves through this experience. Having a baby after loss is a beautiful thing, but it can also be hard.

-Who is Amy and how did you come to know grief?

-How can this kind of pregnancy change after adding and utilizing tools to support?

-Allowing the experiences and emotions such as anxiety to be there without judging them

Links to Amy’s Accounts:

Instagram: Amy Smooth Stones Coaching

Facebook : Smooth Stones Coaching

Her Recommended Book: Pregnancy Brain by Parijat Deshpande

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community

Some links may contain affiliate links in which I receive a small commission if you decide to purchase something, this helps support the grief work I'm doing.

51: What Story Are You Telling

The way we tell our story is a powerful thing. We can tell our story with shame, resentment, guilt, and where we keep beating ourselves up. Or we can tell our story with love, compassion, and kindness for ourselves. In this episode, I’m telling my story of Aria’s death from 3 different perspectives- Judgement, facts, compassion for myself.

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community

50: Why You Should Invest in Your Mental Health

Right now, you cannot buy anything from me. I have nothing to sell you at this moment. So I wanted to talk about investing in yourself and why I believe you need to be investing in your mental health.

Truly, your mental well-being is a gift. But it’s also something that if you want to, you can invest in yourself the time, money, and energy to supporting and caring for so that you have the energy to take care of your family. There is nothing wrong with you. God made you exactly how you are supposed to be, and I believe he has also given us these tools to support ourselves and process our emotions. 

-Free vs. Paid ways of supporting yourself in your grief

-How mental well-being affects every part of your life

-Why everything shouldn’t be free

-How mental health is a gift, but also something that we can support and work towards

 If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community