42: Are You Going Backwards in Grief?

You ever feel like you have finally climbed out of the hole of grief, things are going well, and then bam. You are back at the bottom again?

-Megan's story when she felt like she was going backward

-What does going backward mean to you?

-What thoughts are you thinking about going backward and how do those make you feel?

-Grief work is always peeling back layers

-You never go backward in grief, you are always walking forward with grief.

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41: Grief Comparison

Today’s topic is about grief comparison. There is so much comparison in our lives, especially in grief. Your grief is different from everyone else. You can’t compare the depth of your grievance to the other person. Comparison serves a purpose in trying to understand from a place of trying to understand. Comparison is like a judgment of who has it worse or who is valid in their grief.

The experience of loss is going to be different for each one of us. Focusing on your own journey can help on your grief journey. We have the right to grieve no matter what happened. You are right where you need to be. And each step you take is a step forward. Just keep taking little steps every day. You are never alone on this journey.

In this episode Megan discuss:

1. Why are they feeling that way towards you?

2. Why are they doing so much better than you?

3. Are compassion and empathy finite?

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community

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40: Choosing Joy in Grief

In this episode, I want to talk about how each one of us has to make a personal decision on our own grief journey. How are we going to live in our grief and what choices we’re going to make? You’d think about how you’d become a better person after this traumatic experience. Will you be compassionate or have more love for others? But with pain and grief, comes peace and joy, if you want and look for it.

I’ve found so many blessings. Adversities are still there and it teaches us to be appreciative of the things and people we have around us if we choose to look for them. I still grieve, I still hurt, and I still have pain. But I believe in light and life. It’s not either-or, it’s both.

I’ll be discussing: 

·         How to process my emotions?

·         How to be compassionate for others

·         Learned to accept that every day could be our last day without the fear.

·         I can now find contentment in the little things. Smile with my kids, laugh at nothing, and at small things that count.